Velveteen rabbit

One of my Facebook friends posted this quote to her ” wall” this morning.

“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

From The Velveteen Rabbit…
by Margery Williams

Now I haven’t read this story since childhood, but I do remember the wisdom of the Skin Horse.
My Facebook friend said she was struck by it & I must agree. Childrens’ books usually hold some of the most profound truths.
This quote talks about  what it takes to be Real. This is especially pertinent in today’s fast-paced, consumer-oriented society that is obsessed with superficiality. 
Maybe that is why I am still single: I don’t  believe in love of the romantic sort that isn’t REAL.  A man who can’t accept & love me at my very worst surely does not deserve me at my very best & the same holds true for him. Until I find such a ma I am better-off single & am too old to care  what society thinks about  my being an ” old maid” at the age of 33. If I marry I want a man who will love me even when I look shabby, not one who is gonna seek to trade me in for a younger, more compliant, botox-injected woman.
Thankfully , I have been blessed with a wonderful example of Real love as seen in the relationship between my parents. Mom & Dad have been married for over 38 years and have been though all sorts of metaphoric ” hell”.  Yet anyone who knows my parents  can see the Reality of their love for each other & this Real love extends to their two biological children,  their daughter-in-law & their friends.
Real people are rare these days & Real love is even more rare.
I can only hope  that if I am meant to be married, that I will be blessed with the sort of Real love  such as  described to the Rabbit by the Skin Horse.
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  • Panic Attack  On 03/07/2010 at 4:08 pm

    lol a number of the remarks bloggers post certainly are a bit spacey, every so often i wonder whether these people are actually scan through the pieces of article and posts before adding a comment or whether they only skim the article title and write the first opinion that pops inside their brain. in either case, it is actually helpful to browse realistic commentary occasionally in contrast to the identical, old opinion which i very often notice on the internet.

  • Jude Ledwith  On 03/09/2010 at 11:38 pm

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